The way to do this is through marriage. It is the Sunnah (way) of the prophets and Messengers. Allah says, “Indeed, We sent Messengers before you, and appointed for them wives and children; And it was not for a Messenger to bring a sign except by Allah's leave. (For) every matter there is a decree (from Allah)” (Surah Raad: 38). And the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Marriage is part of my Sunnah (way of life), and those who do not follow my Sunnah are not from me” (Ibn Majah).
In fact, the life of man, in general and concerning marital dealings in particular, and what it involves of fulfilling rights and carrying out obligatory acts, is a type of worship if one intends by it to achieve Allah’s Pleasure. Allah says, “Say, ‘Truly, my prayer and my service of sacrifice, my life and my death are (all) for Allah, the Cherisher of the Worlds’” (Surah Al-An’am: 162).
This is the first natural fortress where you can raise a Muslim child following Islamic standards and values to form an Islamically correct character which is well-balanced so that nothing is instilled in it that cannot be removed later. And this is not possible but through marriage.
The family, through marriage, is the first refuge where religion, manners, values, customs, attitudes and habits are instilled.
And how many people complain that there is a lack of scholars and intellectuals?!
The solution is to build a well-balanced Muslim family, as such a family is the place where the Muslim individual’s intellect is formed.
Protecting the individual, caring for him and developing him spiritually, intellectually and physically in an atmosphere of love, mercy and support as well as cheerfulness, closeness, companionship, stability, calm and other qualities needed to promote his psychological well-being is not and will not be achieved but through building a strong family unit. And comfort and ease are not attained but by building a family. Allah says, “And among His [Allah’s] signs is this; that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them. And He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are signs for those who reflect” (Surah Room: 21).
On the other hand, a good society works to maintain chastity, protect people’s lineage and honour, preserve morals by encouraging marriage, and protect society from decay and corruption, and it is also concerned that the individual receives rewards from Allah. The Prophet said, “When one of you approaches his wife, it is a charity” The Companions said, “When one of us fulfills our desires he attains a reward?” The Prophet said, “Don’t you know that if one fulfills them in prohibited ways he will attain a sin? In the same way, if he fulfills them in permitted ways he will attain a reward” (Muslim).
There are social and psychological studies that confirm that practices that do not conform with Islamic legislation-that is relationships between the two sexes that are not according to Islamic legislation-result in an abnormal upbringing for the children, confusion with regard to lineages, loss of rights, psychological instability, moral deprivation, and the spread of incurable diseases. Such a society is prone to disintegration and collapse.
Do you not see that ties between the people are being broken, between both relatives and friends?
The family is the first building block that fosters social relationships between people and the amount of stability and development in the society depends on it, as the family produces strong relationships and bonds between the individuals in a society, in this way forming a united society. Allah says, “It is He Who has created man from water. Then He established relationships of lineages and marriage; for your Lord has power [over all things]” (Surah Al-Furqan: 54).
The family was-and still is-the starting point from which this earth was developed so that mankind would be able to live on it, and it is the source of the earth’s civilizations and continuous progress. It is the pillar upon which everything in this life is based with regards to civilizational and developmental growth. Allah says, “To Thamud, [We sent] Salih, one of their own brethren. He said, ‘O may people! Worship Allah: you have no other god but Him. It is He Who has produced you from the earth and settled you therein: then ask forgiveness from Him and turn to Him (in repentance). For my Lord is (always) near, ready to answer” (Surah Hud: 61).
In fact, the survival of humanity as a whole is not possible but through the blessing of marriage.
Allah, Exalted is He, says, concerning being grateful for this blessing, “And Allah has made for you mates of your own nature, and has made for you, from your mates, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and granted you good provisions. Will they then believe in vain things, and be ungrateful for Allah’s favours” (Surah Al-Nahl: 72).
And the Prophet (peace be upon him) liked and encouraged people to have children by saying, ““Marry those who are loving and fertile, for I will be proud of your great numbers” (Abu Dawud).
The point is that marriage is an innate matter which Divine revelation laid down, which normal minds agree upon, and has been an established institution throughout the history of mankind.